How to deal with tricky housemates and avoid disputes
Not knowing who you will be living with is quite a scary prospect. If you’re worried about creating a tense atmosphere, then read on to learn how to deal with these situations in the best way possible.
Before we get into it, I think it’s important to make it clear that you aren’t always going to get along with every person you meet, and that’s fine, but when you’re living with people it’s always important to try and remain civil.
Be tidy but reasonable
One of the main issues people experience whilst living with others is the different definitions we all have of ‘tidy.’ Some people can live in absolute filth and not even bat an eyelid, but that doesn’t mean you deserve to live in that situation. However, be fair – you can’t always expect people to wash their dishes straight away after a long day, so be reasonable but if a mess is left standing for more than 24 hours then take the opportunity to complain. On the flip side, always try to be as tidy as possible in spaces that you share with others because you don’t want to be the one causing all the issues.
Use your dishwasher
Also, unpopular opinion but if you have a dishwasher then USE it! It’s a much more encouraging way to get everyone to do their dishes and despite what everyone says it doesn’t waste much water. In fact, you are more likely to waste more money as a household by washing your dishes independently.
Don’t trust someone’s “word.”
If you are splitting bills, then get it in writing. Often, things like energy caps are split between households and this is written in your tenancy contract, but you may have agreed to split your food bill too (which is a good idea as shopping for one is usually more expensive!) but if this is the case make sure you always pay them back and don’t be afraid to ask for money you’re owed too. It’s always awkward asking when you will be paid back, especially as a broke student, but if someone is always late paying you then it may be a good idea to stop splitting the bills.
Set ground rules and rotas
Not everyone listens to rotas but it’s always worth a try. Sharing tasks and household chores is one of the best ways to co-habit, evening out the workload makes less of a reason for someone to complain about you “not pulling your weight.” Otherwise, you’d be surprised how many arguments can be caused over who’s turn it is to take the bins out.
House guests
It’s always nice to have houseguests over but if you have noticed someone that isn’t paying rent is staying in the house more often than you are… it may be time to have a word. At the end of the day, if they are using up your energy and living in your space then they should be contributing in some way. Maybe having this talk before you move in is a good idea, then you can remind your housemate of their previous promise. You don’t want to cause bad blood, but you can compromise by asking your house guest to chip in on the bills – if they respond negatively then kindly remind them that you’re the one that pays rent and if they can’t… then they can’t stay. It’s harsh but you have to put your foot down sometimes.
